Resources Page

Here are a few resources that may be of use to our customers:

Safe Words:

If you are, for instance, spanking someone and they are shouting "No! Stop!", how do you know whether they actually mean "stop" or whether they're having fun and they actually mean "More!"?

We recommend the "Traffic Light" system of safewords (or finger signals if you're using gags) which allow safe play whilst still ensuring enjoyment for all concerned.

"Green" (or one finger held up) means "Go ahead" (good if you just want to "check up")
"Amber" (or two fingers) means "Proceed with caution" as you're getting close to a limit
"Red" (or three fingers) means "Stop" things have gone a bit too far.
"Red, Red, Red!" (or five fingers) means "Emergency Stop!" for instance if the person is tied up and has got cramp

Negotiation Document:

If you want to play with someone who you don't know well, or you want a way to broach subjects that you may find embarassing, this document (5 pages in Word 95 or 6 pages in Word 97 format) gives a comprehensive list of practices and allows you to fill it in stating whether you would like to do something a little, a lot or not at all.

It also contains a list of parts of the body to allow the user to specify areas to be concentrated on or avoided (eg for medical reasons)

We have also compiled a "short version" of the Negotiation Document which has fewer subjects and is only 2 pages long.

Shortened Version:

Click here for Word 95 version (20 kb)
Click here for Word 97 version (56 kb) Has table formatting for easier use
(If the Word 97 version doesn't work, please try the Word 95 version)
Click here for a text version (5 kb)

Full Length Version:

Click here for Word 95 version (36 kb)
Click here for Word 97 version (115 kb) Has table formatting for easier use
(If the Word 97 version doesn't work, please try the Word 95 version)
Click here for a text version (10 kb)

Recommended Reading:

SM 101 by John Warren - A comprehensive guide to BDSM right from the basics through to advanced techniques including much sensible safety advice.

The Topping Book/ The Bottoming Book by Catherine A Liszt and Dossie Eason - Guides to BDSM focussing more on the "emotional" and "relationship" sides than just techniques.

Both of the these are available from amazon.com or amazon.co.uk

If you have any suggestions for other books or resources for this page, please let us know at info@affordable-leather.co.uk